5 Essential Coping Strategies

for a Calmer Holiday Season

The holiday season can bring joy, but it can also create stress, sadness, and emotional challenges. With kids home from school and the hustle of holiday activities, stress levels can rise quickly for parents/caregivers and children alike. Prioritizing your mental health is essential, and carving out moments for self-care can make a big difference. Here are five strategies to help you stay grounded and centered throughout the holidays.

1. Start with Gratitude: A Powerful Tool for Coping

Gratitude can help reduce stress and increase happiness, particularly during challenging times. Studies show that practicing gratitude can improve emotional well-being and shift our focus toward positive emotions, even when things feel overwhelming. Try keeping a gratitude journal, where you jot down three things you’re grateful for each day. This simple practice can bring peace even during stressful moments.

Download our 5 Minute Gratitude Journal to keep you grounded this holiday season.

A colorful sheet with different journal prompts to create a 5 minute gratitude refelction

2. Prioritize Self-Care to Recharge and Relax

Self-care is essential during the holidays. A survey by the American Psychological Association found that nearly 38% of people report higher stress levels during the season. Taking time for activities that rejuvenate you—whether it’s a quiet walk, reading a book, or engaging in relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation—can help you stay balanced. Be sure to set boundaries to protect your time and energy. Consider downloading our Winter Wellness & Self-Care Plan that includes physical and mental health practices to help you stay grounded.

Quick Self-Care Tips:

  • Take Breaks: Find moments to rest and recharge throughout your day.
  • Stay Active: Regular physical activity boosts mood and reduces stress.
  • Set Boundaries: Saying “no” when you need time for yourself is vital for mental well-being.

Find more self-care resources in our Self-Care Playlist on YouTube

3. Manage Stress with Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a powerful tool for reducing stress and staying present during the holiday season. Simple practices like deep breathing, meditation, or a mindful walk can help calm your mind and bring you back to the moment. Taking just a few minutes each day to check in with your thoughts and emotions can help you manage overwhelm and prevent burnout.

Try our Mindful Scavenger Hunt to decompress. 

A colorful sheet with different journal prompts to create a 5 minute gratitude refelction
A colorful sheet with different journal prompts to create a 5 minute gratitude refelction

4. Reach Out for Support: Mental Health Resources

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to know that support is available. During the holidays, many people experience increased mental health struggles, and seeking help is crucial. Whether you need someone to talk to or professional support, there are numerous resources available to assist you.

Helpful Resources:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call or text 988
  • Crisis Text Line: Text “HOME” to 741741
  • Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

Our Holiday Mental Health Resource Guide also provides practical steps and support for individuals and families navigating the emotional challenges of the season.

Descarga nuestro Guía de Recursos Para Los Días Festivo en Espanol. 

4. Reach Out for Support: Mental Health Resources

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to know that support is available. During the holidays, many people experience increased mental health struggles, and seeking help is crucial. Whether you need someone to talk to or professional support, there are numerous resources available to assist you.

Helpful Resources:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call or text 988
  • Crisis Text Line: Text “HOME” to 741741
  • Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

Our Holiday Mental Health Resource Guide also provides practical steps and support for individuals and families navigating the emotional challenges of the season.

5. Coping with Grief: Acknowledging and Honoring Loss

For many, the holiday season can be especially difficult due to grief and loss. Whether it’s the passing of a loved one or another form of loss, it’s important to acknowledge and process these feelings in a healthy way. Activities like journaling, creating a memory jar, or simply taking time to reflect on your emotions can help provide comfort during this time. Remember, grief doesn’t have a set timeline, and it’s okay to feel however you feel during the holidays.

View our video Speaking to Your Child About Grief for support navigating conversations during these difficult times.

Mira nuestro video “Hablando con tu hijo sobre el duelo” para obtener apoyo al navegar conversaciones durante estos tiempos difíciles.

This holiday season, prioritize your mental health by practicing these coping strategies. Remember, it’s okay to take a step back when needed, seek support, and focus on what truly matters. The holidays don’t have to be perfect—they can be meaningful when we take care of ourselves and each other.

Additional Tools / Resources

About Safe At Home

Joe Torre, along with his wife Ali, founded Safe At Home in 2002 to end the cycle of violence and save lives. Known for his 60+ years in baseball as an All-Star player, broadcaster, and Hall of Fame manager, Joe carried the burden of childhood trauma from domestic violence. This personal experience inspired him to ensure no child would ever feel alone, afraid, or ashamed.

Safe At Home’s Margaret’s Place program, named in honor of Joe’s mother, offers trauma-informed intervention and prevention services within schools, helping students learn about healthy relationships, leadership, and emotional well-being. The impact of Margaret’s Place program’s impact extends beyond the classroom, uplifting families, schools, and communities. Currently operating across 29 school sites in New York, California, Ohio, and two international locations, Margaret’s Place has directly served over 200,000 young people, families, schools, and communities. 

We aim to provide valuable and accesible digital resources, including trauma-informed care, mental health support, and expert advice to empower those seeking healing and resilience.

We are safer, and braver, together. 

Cultivating Gratitude and Connection

Across Generations this Holiday Season

The holiday season invites us to reflect on gratitude, build stronger connections, and give back to our communities. It’s a special time to gather with loved ones, share stories, and engage in traditions that celebrate unity and compassion. Research shows that intergenerational connections—between grandparents, parents, children, and extended family—not only deepen bonds but also boost mental well-being and resilience for everyone involved.

The Value of Intergenerational Connections

Building connections across generations allows family members to learn from each other’s experiences. Intergenerational relationships foster empathy, reduce isolation, and give youth valuable insights into family history and cultural heritage (Kaplan, 2018). In a world where isolation and stress are prevalent, these meaningful bonds offer a sense of belonging and continuity.

Strengthening Connections Across Generations

Here are 4 ways to nurture intergenerational connections during the holiday season:

1. Engage in Shared Activities

  • Storytelling Sessions: Invite older family members to share memorable stories or life lessons. Encourage younger members to ask questions and share their own experiences.
  • Conversation Prompts: Use conversation cards or prompts to encourage open dialogue. Try questions like:
    • “What’s one lesson you learned growing up?”
    • “What was the world like when you were my age?”
    • “What’s something you’ve learned from a younger family member?”
A list of 9 conversation starters to Strengthen Intergenerational Bonds This Holiday Season
  • Shared Hobbies or Skills: Engage in activities where one generation teaches the other—whether cooking, technology, or crafts. These shared experiences create lasting memories and deepen mutual understanding.

2. Foster Respectful Dialogue

  • Practice Active Listening: Show respect by listening attentively and avoiding interruptions.
  • Share Family Stories: Focus on stories that highlight family strength and resilience. These create shared history and reinforce connections.
  • Keep an Open Mind: Encourage curiosity by asking questions and showing interest in each other’s experiences, bridging generational gaps. Try our A Walk In My Shoes: Family Art Activity to get to know your loved ones more deeply.
Image of a jar with instructions to write down what you are grateful for inside of teh jar

3. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude enhances well-being, increasing happiness, reducing depression, and strengthening relationships (Emmons & McCullough, 2003). To foster gratitude this holiday season, consider these activities:

  • Gratitude Jar: Create a family gratitude jar, where everyone can jot down things they’re thankful for throughout the month. At the end of the season, take time to read each note aloud and reflect together as a family. You can also download our Gratitude Jar worksheet. 
  • Thank You Notes: Encourage family members to write thank you notes to people who’ve made a positive impact in their lives. This simple act strengthens connections.
  • Gratitude Circle: During family gatherings, ask everyone to share one thing they’re grateful for. This practice sparks meaningful conversation and reinforces a sense of togetherness.

4. Give Back and Volunteer

Volunteering together during the holiday season encourages compassion and gives younger generations a hands-on understanding of generosity and empathy. According to Psychology Today, volunteering can increase life satisfaction and reduce stress, especially when done as part of a group (Schwartz, 2018).

Consider these ideas for giving back as a family:

  • Community Service Projects: Volunteer at local food banks, shelters, or other community centers. Consider using the Deed App to find volunteer opportunities.
  • Assemble Care Packages: Create care packages with essentials like food, hygiene products, and notes of encouragement. Assembling packages together can spark conversations about gratitude and giving, making a positive impact on those in need. Use our care package checklist for support.
  • Support Local Organizations: Find a cause that resonates with your family, such as youth empowerment or elder care, and support it through donations or volunteer work. This shared experience can create a sense of purpose and community involvement.

Finding Meaning in Connection and Gratitude

This holiday season, take time to connect across generations, express gratitude, and give back. These small acts can create lasting memories and help lay a foundation of compassion and respect within your family. By fostering these connections and engaging in these practices, we create an environment of unity and gratitude that supports mental well-being for all family members.

May your holidays be filled with gratitude, meaningful connections, and the joy of giving back.

Ali & Joe Torre standing at a podium with Safe At Home Logo, alongside a graphic that says " The Annual safe At Home Gala Celebrating the Next Generation of Changemakers"

Annual New York Gala 2024

Celebrating the Next Generation of Changemakers

The 22nd Annual Safe At Home New York Gala was an inspiring evening of community, commitment, and celebration. Held on Thursday, November 14, 2024, at the iconic Gotham Hall in New York City, the event brought together supporters, partners, and changemakers to reflect on over two decades of impact and to look ahead to the future of Safe At Home’s mission.

The evening began with a warm atmosphere of connection as guests mingled during the cocktail hour and explored the silent auction, which featured an array of generous contributions. We extend heartfelt thanks to our auction donors for their incredible support, which helped make the event a resounding success.

Bob Costas, a cornerstone of Safe At Home’s journey, has been with us since the beginning, hosting the New York Gala year after year. As a legendary broadcaster with a career spanning more than four decades, Bob has not only left an indelible mark on sports journalism but has also played a pivotal role in elevating Safe At Home’s mission since its inception. This year, as he prepares for his retirement from broadcasting, we honored his unwavering support and reflected on the profound impact he has made in inspiring others to join our cause.

Joe and Ali Torre took the stage to share updates on Safe At Home’s journey and its growing reach. They spoke about how the organization has expanded beyond classrooms through innovative partnerships, including a collaboration with Minor League Baseball (MiLB). This partnership has introduced Margaret’s Place tools and resources to 45 teams, reaching over 150,000 individuals across the country. Inspired by this success, Safe At Home is now working to bring these resources to Major League Baseball and Little League, with the latter reaching over 1 million coaches and volunteers nationwide to educate them on keeping kids safe.

Maile Zambuto, Safe At Home’s Chief Executive Officer, provided an inspiring update on the organization’s growth and achievements over the past year. By the end of 2024, Safe At Home will have 29 Margaret’s Place programs across three states and three international locations. This includes the addition of nine new programs this year alone, thanks to a multi-year partnership with the Los Angeles County Office of Education and Department of Mental Health. Maile also highlighted the success of Safe At Home’s pilot initiative to adapt the Margaret’s Place model for children as young as five years old, demonstrating the ability to address trauma at earlier stages of development.

A video showcasing the “Next Generation of Changemakers” featured Peace Warriors from PS 117, Peer Leaders from MS 217 in Queens, and students from White Plains High School. Their honest reflections on what it means to be a kid today captured the resilience, hope, and determination of the young people Safe At Home serves, underscoring the importance of creating spaces where they can thrive.

One of the evening’s most poignant moments came when professional baseball pitcher Zac Kristofak shared his deeply personal story. Zac and his brother experienced the tragic loss of their mother to domestic violence. Despite this unimaginable tragedy, Zac has channeled his resilience and determination into rising through the ranks of professional baseball, making his MLB debut with the Los Angeles Angels earlier this year. His connection to Safe At Home’s mission and his courage in sharing his story served as a powerful reminder of the importance of creating spaces for healing, hope, and resilience.

The generosity of attendees shone brightly during the live and program auctions, led by Jamie McDonald, as the audience came together to support Safe At Home’s vital work. Their enthusiasm and commitment underscored the collective dedication to empowering youth and building stronger communities.

The evening concluded with unforgettable performances by Pete Muller and The Kindred Souls, followed by the legendary Goo Goo Dolls. Known for their decades of iconic hits, the Goo Goo Dolls have also shown a deep commitment to giving back. Through their 2022-2023 tours, they raised critical funds for Safe At Home, amplifying our mission. Their 2022 song “You Are the Answer” became a rallying cry for supporting youth impacted by trauma, and earlier this year, John Rzeznik visited White Plains High School to connect with Margaret’s Place students, further demonstrating their dedication to making a difference.

We are deeply grateful to everyone who made this night possible: our Event Committee, Board of Directors, staff, Margaret’s Place counselors, and school principals. Thank you to our sponsors and donors, including our Official Airline Sponsor Delta Air Lines, our media partners at Goodman Media, our photographer John Chan, our production team, our volunteers and security team, and the team at Gotham Hall for their hospitality.

The 2024 New York Gala celebrated not just the progress we’ve made but also the collective commitment to creating a safer, braver future for the next generation. With your continued support, we will ensure every child feels safe, supported, and empowered to thrive. Thank you for being an essential part of this journey.

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Michael Ball Kyle Driscoll Frank Longobardi

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Couldn’t join us this year? Make a contribution below.

We look forward to seeing you next year!

Supporting Boys, Young Men, and Male-Identifying Individuals:

The Importance of Community and Connection for Mental Health

November brings Movember, a global movement spotlighting men’s mental health and well-being. It’s the perfect time to address the unique challenges faced by boys, young men, and male-identifying individuals. Societal pressures often discourage vulnerability and help-seeking, leaving many feeling isolated. However, building community and fostering connection can significantly bolster resilience and improve mental health outcomes.

Why Community Matters

Peer groups play a critical role in shaping identity and self-esteem for boys, young men, and male-identifying individuals. Without supportive environments, they may turn to unhealthy outlets to find belonging. Research shows that isolation increases the likelihood of risky behaviors as youth seek connection in unsafe ways (Dukes & Martinez, 2017). Programs like Safe At Home’s Margaret’s Place provide essential spaces for young people to connect, discuss emotions, and develop healthy relationship skills.

Practical Ideas to Foster Connection

Encouraging positive peer interaction can reduce feelings of isolation and boost self-esteem. Here are some ideas:

  • Group Activities: Team sports, after-school clubs, or group therapy encourage collaboration and expression in supportive settings. At Margaret’s Place, group programs tailored to young men use creative outlets like art and music to foster connection and self-expression.
  • Long-standing Community Traditions: Activities like neighborhood pick-up sports, free library programs, and mentoring initiatives naturally cultivate connection. The CDC highlights the positive impact of structured mentorship programs in reducing risky behaviors (CDC, 2021).
Dark blue graphics listing various Affirmations for young men to use

Access tools to promote connection in your community through our Resource Hub.

Tips for Caregivers and Educators

Supporting youth mental health doesn’t always require professional intervention. Small actions can make a big impact:

1. Encourage Open Conversations

Ask open-ended questions like, “How did that make you feel?” or “What might make this situation easier?”

Download our Conversation Cards for Changemakers to spark meaningful discussions at home or in group settings.

Or view our video on Effective Communication: A Guide For Parents

A spread of cards with the heading "Conversation Cards for Changemakers" meant to prompt healthy dialogue between adults and children.

2. Model Healthy Coping Skills

Demonstrate techniques like journaling or deep breathing, encouraging youth to explore what works for them.

For extra support, download our Coping Skills Worksheet—a helpful tool to guide youth in identifying and practicing healthy ways to manage stress and emotions.

A worksheet explaining what healthy and unhealthy coping skills are
A worksheet for practicing healthy and unhealthy coping skills

3. Normalize Seeking Help

Emphasize that asking for support is a strength. Share emergency resources to ensure youth know where to turn.

Mental Health Resources for Male-Identifying Youth:

Finding support is a vital step in fostering mental health and resilience. Here are resources tailored to men, boys, and male-identifying individuals to promote self-care, connection, and well-being:

General Mental Health Resources:

  • Movember Men’s Health Resources: Offers valuable resources specifically tailored to men’s mental health, including self-care tips, peer support programs, and educational materials.
  • A Call to Men: Focuses on promoting healthy, respectful manhood by challenging traditional gender norms and offering tools to help boys and young men build stronger emotional connections and advocate for gender equity.
  • Boys Town: Provides resources on social skills and coping strategies tailored for young boys and teenagers.

Emergency Support Services:

Encourage youth in need to take the first step toward seeking help. Support is always available to create safer, braver spaces for all.

Join Us This Movember

This Movember, let’s challenge stigma and foster a culture of openness and resilience for male-identifying youth. Whether by joining initiatives, downloading resources, or simply starting a conversation, we can make a difference. Together, we can create safer, braver spaces where all youth can thrive.

Explore more resources.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2024:

Empowering Safer, Braver Spaces Through Education and Support

October marks Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a crucial time to raise awareness, educate the public, and promote essential resources to prevent domestic violence. Each year, domestic violence affects millions, leaving lasting physical, emotional, and psychological scars. At the same time, Safe At Home is committed to fostering safer, braver spaces for those impacted by domestic violence. Through our trauma-informed Margaret’s Place programs, we provide direct support to students in schools by offering counseling, education, and peer leadership programs that help young people build healthy relationships.

Even if your school doesn’t have a Margaret’s Place program, this month, we are sharing valuable resources to empower communities and equip them with the tools needed to make a difference both inside and outside the classroom.

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence, commonly referred to as intimate partner violence, is a pattern of abusive behaviors used to exert control over another person. In fact, it can take many forms, including:

  • Physical abuse: Hitting, choking, or causing physical harm.
  • Emotional and verbal abuse: Manipulation, threats, or insults designed to break down someone’s self-esteem.
  • Psychological control: Gaslighting, isolation, or coercion.
  • Financial control: Restricting access to money or resources.
  • Sexual coercion: Forcing unwanted sexual acts.
Infographic with the definition of domestic violence, including types of domestic violence, and resources for anyone experiencing domestic violence.
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🎧 Want to learn more about the different types of abuse? Listen to Episode 3 of our podcast, Safe Keeping, where we dive deeper into this important topic. 

Understanding the Impact Across Demographics

Although domestic violence can impact anyone, certain populations are more vulnerable. Recognizing how domestic violence affects different communities is crucial to ensuring equitable support and culturally sensitive resources.

These statistics demonstrate the diverse ways in which domestic violence affects different communities and highlight the need for culturally competent, inclusive resources to address this widespread issue.

Domestic Violence & Hispanic Communities:

Hispanic teens are 60% more likely to attempt suicide than their non-Hispanic white peers, particularly when exposed to domestic violence

(U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Office of Minority Health)

Domestic Violence & Black Women:

1 in 4 Black women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.

Black women are 2.5 times more likely to be killed by men than white women (Institute for Women’s Policy Research).

Systemic barriers, including racism and socioeconomic challenges, make it more difficult for Black survivors to access support.

Domestic Violence & Native American and Alaskan Native Women:

More than 4 in 5 Native American women have experienced violence, and 55% have experienced intimate partner violence (National Congress of American Indians).

Complex legal and systemic challenges often hinder Native American communities’ ability to access support and justice.

Domestic Violence & LGBTQ+ Communities:

44% of lesbian women and 61% of bisexual women experience domestic violence.

37% of bisexual men report experiencing abuse, often from male partners (NCADV).

1 in 3 transgender individuals are at risk of domestic abuse during their lifetime (Human Rights Campaign, 2022).

Domestic Violence & Women with Disabilities:

Women with disabilities experience domestic violence at rates 40% higher than women without disabilities (End Abuse of People with Disabilities).

Unique risks include caregiver abuse and additional barriers to accessing support services.

Domestic Violence & Children:

1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 2022).

Witnessing domestic violence can double a child’s risk of developing anxiety or PTSD.

Recognizing the Signs of Abuse

Abuse can often be difficult to recognize, especially in relationships where power and control are involved. Here are some common signs that may indicate an abusive relationship:

  • Extreme Jealousy: Constantly accusing you of being unfaithful or questioning who you spend time with
  • Possessiveness: Acting as if they “own” you, controlling what you wear, where you go and who you see.
  • Isolation: Cutting you off from friends, family, or social activities. They may guilt you into staying home or discourage you from seeing others.
  • Constant Criticism: Regularly belittling you, calling you names, or making you feel worthless. They may make you doubt your self-worth or abilities.
  • Blaming You for Their Behavior: Saying things like, “If you didn’t do that, I wouldn’t have gotten triggered,” or blaming you for their problems or bad mood.
  • Unpredictable Mood Swings: Switching from being loving and caring to angry and violent without warning. You might feel like you’re “walking on eggshells”. 

Are you or someone you know affected by domestic violence?

If you notice any of these warning signs, it’s important to reach out for immediate help and support. Abusive behavior will often escalate over time, and early intervention is key to preventing further harm.

Remember, there is help and abuse is never your fault.

What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like

A healthy relationship is one built on mutual respect, trust, and open communication. At Margaret’s Place, we teach students how to recognize the qualities of a healthy relationship to help them avoid or leave abusive situations, but these signs are important to spot at any age. Here are some characteristics of a healthy relationship:

  • Mutual respect for each other’s feelings and boundaries
  • Open, honest communication without fear of judgment
  • Equal decision-making and shared responsibilities
  • Support for each other’s growth and well-being

Everyone deserves to feel safe and respected in their relationships.

Challenge yourself this Domestic Violence Awareness Month with our Healthy Relationship Challenge, or download our healthy relationship guide for more activities. 

Suggestions for how to create a healthy releationships

How to Talk About and Support Victims of Domestic Violence

Starting conversations about domestic violence can feel overwhelming, but it’s essential to foster understanding and create safer spaces for all. Whether you’re communicating with children, teens, friends, or seeking help yourself, here’s how to approach these important discussions during Domestic Violence Awareness Month and beyond.

 

Communicating with Younger Children (Elementary Age)

When talking with younger children, it’s important to focus on concepts like kindness, empathy, and safety. For example, discuss the importance of respect for others’ personal boundaries in an age-appropriate way, helping children understand that everyone deserves to feel safe and valued.

Example: “Respecting someone’s “no” is a part of showing kindness and care. We should always be kind and never hurt others.”

A helpful tool is the book A Terrible Thing Happened, which helps children process trauma in an age-appropriate way.

Similarly, our Conversation Cards for Children provide prompts to start meaningful discussions about feelings and safety. Save, print, and cut into cards for use at home or in the classroom.

Conversation cards to help have discussions with your child about domestic violence.

Communicating with Teens and High School Students

Teens require more direct conversations about healthy relationships, consent, and boundaries. To illustrate, use real-life scenarios or media they are familiar with to explain the importance of mutual respect and safety in relationships.

Example: “In a healthy relationship, both people should feel respected and safe. If you feel scared or controlled, it’s important to reach out for help.”

In addition, our video, “Understanding Domestic Violence: A Guide for Parents”, offers guidance on how to approach these conversations with your teenager, empowering them to recognize unhealthy behaviors and seek help if necessary.

How to Get Involved During Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Whether you are a student, educator, or supporter, everyone can play a role in creating safer, braver spaces this Domestic Violence Awareness Month. View upcoming events and ways to get involved below:

NYC Domestic Violence Awareness Month Events:

A full list of Domestic Violence Awareness Month events happening throughout New York City.

View the New York Calendar.

California Partnership to End Domestic Violence Events:

Find Domestic Violemce Awarenss Month events across California that promote awareness and action.

View the California Calendar.

Running Your Own Domestic Violence Awareness Month Campaign

Throughout the month, our Margaret’s Place counselors and Peer Leaders will be leading school-wide campaigns, promoting respect, healthy relationships, and raising awareness about domestic violence. Even if your school or community doesn’t have a Margaret’s Place program, you can still make an impact by running your own Domestic Violence Awareness Month campaign. Here’s how to get started:

  1. Set a Goal: Define the focus of your campaign, whether it’s promoting healthy relationships, mental health, or domestic violence awareness.
  2. Engage Your Community: Plan events, distribute flyers, and use social media to raise awareness. Encourage participation through events, workshops, or activities.
  3. Create Materials: Get creative with social media graphics, posters, and videos to make your message impactful.
  4. Collaborate with Peers: Work with your student body or local organizations to amplify your campaign’s reach.

For more detailed steps and ideas, check out our Campaign Tip Sheet.

Remember, you don’t need to be part of Margaret’s Place to make a difference!

Campaign Tips for running your own Domestic Violence Awareness Month campaign at your school or in your community

Resources

If you or someone you know needs help, there are many trusted resources available that offer support for individuals affected by domestic violence. These organizations provide culturally relevant and trauma-informed care:

www.thehotline.org

Call (800) 799-7233 or text “START” to 88788 for confidential support 24/7.

www.nami.org

Mental health resources tailored to the Hispanic/Latino community.

988lifeline.org

Bilingual crisis support for individuals in need.

www.jedfoundation.org

Mental health resources for teens and young adults, with specific resources for Hispanic and Latino communities.

www.loveisrespect.org

Support and resources for teens and young adults navigating relationships.

www.acalltomen.org

Empowering men and boys to promote healthy, respectful relationships and end violence against women.

nomoredirectory.org

A global directory of domestic and sexual violence helplines and services

joetorre.org/resources

Explore a wide array of support materials for youth, teachers, and parents.

Domestic violence is an issue that affects people of all ages, races, and backgrounds. This Domestic Violence Awareness Month, lets educate ourselves, further support those in need, and raise awareness, so that together, we can create a future where everyone feels safer and braver.

Explore more resources.

Joe Torre Safe At Home Foundation

Vice President of Impact - New York or Los Angeles

Job Description

Background:
Founded in 2002 by Ali and Joe Torre, the Joe Torre Safe At Home Foundation (SAH) helps children impacted by violence and abuse by providing intervention and prevention services within schools to help children learn coping skills, build resilience, discover their voices, and find hope and healing. SAH’s Margaret’s Place program focuses on children and youth between the ages of 6 and 18 who have been exposed to domestic violence, child abuse, teen dating abuse, and sexual assault. SAH’s mission is to educate children, families, and communities to be the changemakers who build a safer, braver world together.

With offices in New York City and Los Angeles, SAH delivers clinical intervention services and comprehensive programming that includes violence prevention education programming, training, and consultation for teachers and school staff, as well as workshops and awareness programming for parents/caregivers. With an annual operating budget of over $7 million, SAH operates 20 sites in California, New Jersey, New York, Ohio, and two in locations in Tahiti with 9 additional school sites opening this Fall.

Position Summary:
The Vice President of Impact will play a pivotal role in shaping and driving the organization’s efforts to measure, enhance, and communicate the outcomes of the Foundation’s work. Focusing on strategy, evaluation, and learning, this senior leadership position will ensure that initiatives directly contribute to the well-being of children impacted by violence. Reporting to the CEO, the VP of Impact will collaborate closely with program teams, external partners, and key stakeholders to maximize reach and effectiveness.

The ideal candidate will be naturally inquisitive, demonstrate innovation and fluidity in approach and process, and possess excellent communication and interpersonal skills. They will be detail-oriented and adept at managing multiple priorities, ensuring that deadlines are tracked and consistently met.

Responsibilities:

Organizational Leadership

  • Serve as key member of Safe At Home’s senior leadership team, bringing impact expertise and contributing to the development and refinement of organizational strategy and goals
  • Oversee the Impact Team, with four direct reports (Manager of Data & Evaluation, Manager of Impact, MEL Specialist, and Associate Director of Compliance)
  • Develop and maintain a broad and deep knowledge of all program areas; provide strategic leadership and support to a collaborative and innovative team that works cross-functionally across SAH verticals
  • Serve as Program Impact liaison to SAH’s Board of Directors, as well as with the Program Committee to support their engagement with program outcomes; present on program outcomes at quarterly Board meetings.

Program Strategy and Impact Management

  • Develop, execute, and measure program and organizational impact strategy with annual and multi-year plans that meet stated impact goals aligned with the organization’s strategic framework
  • Oversee ongoing analysis and evaluation of program data to ensure that the organization is using evaluation to improve programs and communicate program effectiveness to appropriate stakeholders effectively and continuously
  • Develop and design project timelines for new program implementation, including hiring timelines, project budget management, and on-boarding staff in support of SAH’s organizational goals for program expansion and scale
  • In partnership with the rest of the Leadership and Executive Team, determine and maintain annual expectations across program services based on current funder, stakeholder, and reporting needs and organizational goals
  • Develop organizational dashboard and tracking tools so that program leadership can maintain accountability for progress towards goals
  • Co-create on-boarding and ongoing internal and contractor trainings on data collection, evaluation, impact, reporting, and sustainability functions; standardize documentation so that program deliverables are streamlined, and integrated with data collection, evaluation and reporting needs
  • Provide guidance and technical assistance to program teams developing new and ongoing prevention materials to ensure product alignment with evaluative needs and best efficacy practices, as well as funder interests

Program Evaluation and Learning

  • Provide training and technical assistance around the evaluation tools and surveys
  • Develop and enhance measurements for all Margaret’s Place program components, ensure integration with Margaret’s Place Program goals and grant deliverables
  • Design and tailor measurements that can quantify program reach and impacts as new initiatives and programming evolve
  • Collaborate with key staff to communicate the story of SAH programming using findings from formative and summative evaluative tools

Data Management

  • Ensure that SAH has the data systems, data privacy, and data sharing agreements to achieve its strategic and impact goals
  • Lead team that monitors, maintains, and updates data management system; develop protocols and processes to manage data flow and meet organizational needs and reporting obligations
  • Lead team that delivers user trainings across all program team and all contracted site
  • Oversee the development and standardization of trainings, protocols, and processes

Government and Public-Private Partnerships

  • Lead reporting processes across funders including monthly, quarterly, and annual reports using program data and program narratives
  • Oversee program compliance with grant deliverables and grant scope 

Qualifications:

  • Master’s Degree required; MPH, MED, MPP, or PhD (in a related field)
  • Minimum of 5 years in a senior management role
  • Experience in impact measurement and evaluation with expertise in data analysis and evaluation methodologies to assess program outcomes, development, implementation and expansion; experience with adolescent mental health a plus
  • Strong strategic planning and organizational development abilities
  • Flexible and adaptable style with the ability to work independently and as a team player, to take initiative, and to manage multiple tasks and projects
  • Exceptional interpersonal and communication skills; ability to engage a wide range of colleagues and build long-term relationships built on collaboration
  • A passion for the mission of The Safe At Home Foundation

Salary & Benefits:
The Joe Torre Safe at Home Foundation offers a salary range of $120k to $135 for this position, with compensation based on level of experience.

Benefit package includes 401K with company match (6%), group insurance (Medical/Dental/Life), paid Vacation, Sick, and Personal Time Off, observance of major holidays, and other benefits.

The Joe Torre Safe at Home Foundation provides equal opportunity in employment for all qualified persons and prohibits discrimination in employment on the basis of race, color, creed, national origin, ethnicity, ancestry, religion, age, sex, sexual orientation, gender identity and expression, marital status, partnership status, disability, genetic information, alienage, citizenship, military or veteran status, status as a victim of domestic violence/stalking/sex offenses, and unemployment status.

This position is subject to a background check for any convictions directly related to its duties and responsibilities. Only job-related convictions will be considered and will not automatically disqualify the candidates.

Position location can be either New York City or Los Angeles.

For more information about the Joe Torre Safe at Home Foundation, please visit their website at: https://joetorre.org

To Apply:

The Joe Torre Safe at Home Foundation has retained the services of Harris Rand Lusk to conduct this search. Inquiries, nominations, and applications may be directed in confidence to:

Jack Lusk, Managing Partner & CEO

Harris Rand Lusk

260 Madison Avenue, 15th floor

New York, NY 10016

Email your resume and cover letter to groose@harrisrand.com

Please put “SAH VP Impact” in the subject line of your emailed application.

Back to School: A Fresh Start for Everyone

The start of a new school year is a time full of anticipation, opportunities, and challenges for students, parents, and teachers alike. This period is more than just a return to the classroom; it’s an opportunity to reset, create new routines, and foster a supportive community where everyone can flourish. 

Whether you’re a student facing new challenges or an adult guiding young people through them, this season offers the chance to embrace growth and healing.

Managing Stress & Anxiety During the School Year

Returning to school can feel overwhelming with the pressures of tests, time management, and social dynamics. However, simple coping strategies can help manage stress effectively:

Mindfulness Exercises

Engage in daily mindfulness practices like deep breathing or focusing on the present moment. These techniques can calm the mind and reduce anxiety:

Try using Insight Timer for free guided meditations. Explore their English and Spanish versions here: Insight Timer | Insight Timer Español.

Incorporate Walking Meditation into your routine. This practice helps ground you in the present and can reduce stress. Save our Walking Meditation exercise, or watch our video where we talk you through it.

Square Breathing is a simple yet effective technique to help manage anxiety and improve focus. Learn how to practice Square Breathing with our guide below.

Routine Building

Establish a routine that includes time for relaxation and self-care. Setting aside time each evening to unwind can make a difference.

We love this recommendation from the Calm App on creating a balanced daily routine: Daily Routine Tips.

Another fun way to dedicate time to self-care is through our Self-Care Bingo card. Download it and find inspiration for taking care of yourself.

Seeking Support

Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Whether it’s a counselor, a teacher, or a peer, support is available.

At Margaret’s Place, we offer trauma-informed counseling and peer support to help students navigate these challenges.

If your school doesn’t have a Margaret’s Place program, look for other school resources or local community organizations dedicated to mental health and well-being.

Follow us on social media for tips and resources throughout the school year:

Instagram: @SafeAtHomeFoundation | @Margarets_Place

Twitter: @SafeAtHomeFound

Facebook: Safe At Home Foundation

TikTok: @Margarets_Place

Building Community and Finding Support

Back to school is also about finding your place in the community—whether you’re new to the school or returning after a break.

For Students:

Be a Good Friend: Simple acts of kindness can go a long way in creating a supportive environment. Discover more about the power of friendship with this article from the Jed Foundation: The Power of Friendship.

Be an Upstander: Learn how to be an upstander and make a positive impact in your school community: How to Be an Upstander.

If You’re the New Kid: Remember that everyone has been new at some point. Take small steps to reach out, whether it’s joining a club or simply starting a conversation with a classmate. Here are some conversation starters to help you break the ice:

Starting a conversation with these topics can help you connect with others and find common ground. Good luck!

Utilize Resources: Schools often have numerous resources available to help students feel connected. Check with your teacher, advisor, or the front office to find out what’s available.

For Parents & Teachers:

Your role is vital in helping students navigate the ups and downs of the school year. Encourage open communication and be a source of stability as they adjust to new routines.

Read these tips for healthy parent-child communication: Healthy Parent-Child Communication.

Managing Your Own Stress: Adults often feel the pressure of the back-to-school season just as much as students. Prioritize self-care and manage your time effectively to avoid burnout. Refer to our Managing Stress & Anxiety recommendations above for support.

Practical Tips for Everyone

Set Realistic Goals: Whether you’re a student or an adult, setting achievable goals can help you stay focused and motivated throughout the year. Use this worksheet from TherapistAid to break down your goals: Goal Breakdown Worksheet.

You can also save our SMART Goals Tracker below to guide you through setting Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound goals, making it easier to monitor your success and celebrate your milestones.

Stay Organized: Keep track of assignments, deadlines, and other responsibilities with planners, apps, or to-do lists. Explore free downloads to find a planner that suits your needs: Free Planner Downloads.

Take Breaks: Remember that taking breaks is essential for maintaining mental health. Ensure your routine includes time for relaxation and downtime.

Margaret’s Place: Creating Safe Spaces for Students

At Safe At Home, we are dedicated to creating safe spaces where students can heal and grow. Our groundbreaking Margaret’s Place program offers trauma-informed counseling, peer leadership opportunities, and community-building initiatives, all designed to empower students and support their well-being. Since our inception, Margaret’s Place has made a profound impact, with over 181,000 youth, families, and communities served across the country. We are proud to have 20 Margaret’s Place sites in school communities across California, New York, Connecticut, and Tahiti. Through a partnership with the Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health, we will open 9 additional schools this year.

Read our 2022-2023 Impact Report and stay tuned for the 2023-2024 report available this fall. Subscribe to our newsletter to be notified when it’s released.

As we continue to expand our program sites, we aim to extend the healing impact of Margaret’s Place beyond the four walls of the room. Through our blog, newsletters, social media, and website, we offer resources, tips, and tools to support students, families, and educators nationwide. Even if your school doesn’t have a Margaret’s Place, you can still access valuable resources to help you navigate challenges and foster a supportive community.

The start of a new school year is a chance to begin again, embrace change, and build something new. Whether you’re navigating the challenges of being the new kid, offering support as a parent or teacher, or finding your place in the community, this is your opportunity to make a difference.

At Safe At Home, we’re here to support you find peace, safety, and community as you embark on this new journey.

Let’s make this school year a time of healing, growth, and connection.

Explore more resources. 

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Joe Torre Night: A Home Run for Safe At Home and the Somerset Patriots

On July 23, 2024, the Somerset Patriots hosted a memorable “Joe Torre Night.” This event, part of Safe At Home’s ongoing partnership with Minor League Baseball (MiLB), underscored our vital work in educating and empowering children, families, and communities to be changemakers who build a safer, braver world.

The evening kicked off with our co-founder, Joe Torre, sharing his deeply personal journey during an on-field Q&A session. Speaking openly about his experiences growing up in a home affected by domestic violence, Joe explained how these experiences inspired him and his wife, Ali, to establish the Safe At Home Foundation over two decades ago. Through our Margaret’s Place programs, we create safe spaces inside schools for empowerment, education, and understanding.

Fans were greeted with a special edition Joe Torre x Safe At Home Topps baseball card, a unique keepsake that also serves as a tool for spreading awareness about domestic violence and abuse. Adding to the evening’s excitement, many fans participated in a raffle to win a baseball signed by Joe himself, and Joe set the tone for the game with a ceremonial first pitch.

This event is part of a larger initiative where over 45 MiLB teams are participating from June 9 until September 2, 2024. Each participating team will raffle or auction off a Joe Torre autographed baseball, with proceeds benefiting either Safe At Home, or a local domestic violence organization. Teams will also distribute educational materials, share Safe At Home’s 30 second PSA, and engage with local domestic violence organizations to further extend our reach and impact.

Our partnership with MiLB allows us take the healing powers of Margaret’s place beyond the classroom and into the ballpark, empowering fans across the country to join us in our mission. As Joe himself said, “Millions are exposed to violence, trauma, and abuse every year. It is vital that we raise awareness and that they have access to support. We are proud to partner with Minor League Baseball and Topps to educate and inspire MiLB fans to make a difference and join us in cultivating a new generation of healthy, respectful relationships, where everybody feels safe at home.”

The success of “Joe Torre Night” with the Somerset Patriots is a testament to the power of community and sports in driving positive change. We extend our heartfelt gratitude to the Somerset Patriots community, and especially to the Kalafer family, for their unwavering support of our mission. It was a night filled with baseball, hope, and a shared commitment to making the world a safer place for children and families.

For more opportunities to support Safe At Home through our partnership with MiLB, including finding upcoming games in your area, visit joetorre.org/milb.

 

Read more about the event from MiLB    |    Read our Press Release

 

Joe Torre Safe At Home Welcomes Two New Board Members

NEW YORK, August 9, 2024Joe Torre Safe At Home today announced that Chris Flood, Verizon’s Atlantic North Market President, and Jeff Proctor, President and Founder of television production company ProAngle Media, have joined its Board of Directors.

In his current role as Verizon’s Atlantic North Market President, Flood is responsible for overseeing all consumer sales, distribution, and operational execution across the market’s 12 states and the District of Columbia, leading a team of more than 2,900 employees. Flood is a distinguished leader with a remarkable 22- year career at Verizon, during which he has consistently demonstrated exceptional leadership skills and a proven track record of success. In the Atlantic North Market, he has cultivated a culture of integrity, performance excellence, transparency, and a strong commitment to giving back to the communities Verizon serves. In his previous role, Flood served as the Consumer Vice President of Verizon Consumer Group’s Northeast Region, where he led corporate retail and indirect sales.

“It is a privilege to join Safe At Home, and it’s a responsibility that I embrace with great pride and excitement,” said Flood. “I am honored to be a part of this incredible organization and contribute to its mission of providing essential resources, security and hope to children impacted by domestic violence.”

With more than 30 years of experience in television production, Proctor produced hundreds of professional and collegiate sporting events and served as executive producer for thousands of others. He is the President and Founder of ProAngle Media, a production company responsible for local and national telecasts for clients such as CBS, ESPN, FOX, the Los Angeles Chargers, among others. Recently, Proctor expanded beyond his primary focus on sports to develop, sell and produce game show “Person, Place or Thing,” which currently airs on nearly 200 television stations nationally. Prior to establishing ProAngle, Proctor was the Vice President of Sports for KCBS and KCAL where he oversaw the duopoly’s sports content.

“I am excited and honored to be a part of Safe At Home,” said Proctor. “Not only am I a long-time admirer of Joe and Ali Torre, but to be a part of such an incredible organization that helps kids in need is very satisfying and rewarding. I look forward to helping Safe At Home accomplish its mission of helping at risk kids cope with their trauma and find hope and healing for their futures.”

More than 20 years ago, Ali and Joe Torre founded Safe At Home to end the cycle of violence and abuse through education. Today, with education as its foundation, in schools and beyond, it strengthens every person’s courage, knowledge, and resilience through healthy relationship building, coping and self- care tools, and accessible resources. It teaches children, families, and communities to be changemakers who build a world free from harm. Through its Margaret’s Place model, named in honor of Joe’s mother, Safe at Home creates a safe space in schools, offering both trauma informed intervention and prevention services for empowerment, education, and understanding. Safe at Home currently has 20 Margaret’s Place sites that operate in New York and Westchester, NY; Los Angeles, CA; Cincinnati, OH; and Tahiti, French Polynesia. This school year, Margaret’s Place programs have reached 21,394 students, and since its inception, Safe At Home has served more than 181,000 youth, their families and communities.

For more information, visit www.joetorre.org.

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Media Contact:
Sabrina Strauss
Goodman Media International
sstrauss@goodmanmedia.com

Par for the Cause: Highlights from Our 2024 Annual Golf & Tennis Classic

On July 25, 2024, Safe At Home hosted its highly anticipated Annual Golf & Tennis Classic at the prestigious Sleepy Hollow Country Club in Scarborough, New York. This 20th-year event, which sold out well in advance, was a testament to the dedication and support of our community, sponsors, and guests.

The day began with a delightful breakfast, where participants eagerly connected and set the stage for a memorable day. The excitement was palpable as a star-studded lineup of celebrity guests, including Rick Cerone, Willie Colon, Ken Dashow, Ken Daneyko, Donny Marshall, Jim Leyritz, Jeff Nelson, Lee Mazzilli, Tino Martinez, Dan Plesac, John Starks, Mike Richter, and Tom Verducci, graced us with their presence. Their engagement added an extraordinary touch, making the day truly special.

Participants in the tennis clinic and round-robin tournament put in their best efforts, working up a sweat and enjoying the beautiful weather. Meanwhile, golfers competed in a “Best Ball” format, aiming for the lowest net and gross scores. The camaraderie and friendly competition were highlights of the day. 

Congratulations to all of our award winners:

Low Gross: Bob Devlin, Michael Devlin, Michael Gilmore, John Hoffman, Elliot Levine, John Starks

Low Net: Andrew Clarke, Mike Shea, Sean Byrne, Brian Shapiro, Matt Boland

Closest to the Pin: Scott Burrell, Marie Jensen

Longest Drive: Whit Mayberry, Johanna Redpath

Tennis Round Robin: Maury Gostfrand, Steve Pastor, Lori Sunkin, Andrea Torre

As the sun set, guests gathered for a picturesque cocktail hour on the lawn, followed by a dinner reception under the tent. The evening was highlighted by heartfelt speeches and special recognitions.

The evening opened with a welcome and gratitude from Bob Murray, our Golf Committee Chair, whose leadership and commitment have been instrumental in the success of the Golf & Tennis Classic. He expressed his thanks to everyone for their support and dedication to Safe At Home.

Ali and Joe Torre then took the stage to reflect on Safe At Home’s journey and how far we have come in our mission to end the cycle of domestic violence.

Maile Zambuto, our CEO, spoke about the transformative power of the Margaret’s Place programs, sharing inspiring stories of students who have found hope and healing through Safe At Home. She also took a moment to recognize and introduce our honoree, Frank Longobardi, a dedicated board member whose passion, leadership, and support have been instrumental in Safe At Home’s growth and success. Frank’s heartfelt remarks highlighted the importance of our mission and the impact we continue to make. His energy and motivation were also key in driving the success of our evening pledge donations.

“Being a part of Safe at Home, I am reminded every single day how different my childhood could have been if I had the gift of Margaret’s Place at my school. How much safer I could have been. And how much braver the community around me would have been in responding to the abuse if they were empowered with knowledge, education and understanding. I am also reminded every day that the children who come to Margaret’s Place, they are our guides to Safe at Home’s greatest ambition–a safer and braver world.” - Maile Zambuto, Chief Executive Office

We were also honored to be joined by Fritz Simeon, a recent graduate of White Plains HS where we have had a Margaret’s Place program for over 15 years. Fritz moved many in the audience as he spoke about the support and guidance he received through Margaret’s Place, specifically through Ms. S, who accompanied Fritz on stage. Ms. S started her journey as a Margaret’s Place student and is now guiding students to heal and grow through the same supportive environment—a true testament to the transformative power of our programs.

"I was always a kid who was dealing with stress, depression and anxiety. And school was very stressful for me. I came to a point I just wanted to give up. But when I started talking to Ms. S she started helping me out with my feelings and problems and I felt supported.” - Fritz Simeon, Margaret's Place alumn

One of the highlights of the evening was the panel featuring Joe Torre, Ken Daneyko, John Starks, Jim Leyritz, and Tim O’Neill. The panelists reminisced about their days in sports, sharing laughs, insights, and previously unheard stories. The conversation provided a unique perspective on their illustrious careers and the lessons they’ve learned along the way.

We extend our deepest gratitude to our Golf & Tennis Committee: Bob Murray, Chair; Kyle Driscoll; Rob Gaynor; Maury Gostfrand; Tim O’Neill; Gerry Polizzi; Matt Roux. Special thanks to the Kalafer family, Clinton Honda, and Land Rover Princeton for sponsoring our Hole-in-One cars on holes 7 & 10, to Major League Baseball and Pedigree Ski Shop for their generous gift bag donations, to Capital One for their raffle donation, to WFAN radio for broadcasting live throughout the day, Goodman Media International, Inc. for their media support, our event photographer John Chan, our staff and volunteers, our sponsors, and to all our celebrity guests who made the event even more memorable. Your unwavering support is the backbone of our efforts to create safer, braver spaces for children and families.

Thank you to everyone who participated and made the 2024 Annual Golf & Tennis Classic a truly unforgettable event. As we reflect on this incredible day, we are filled with gratitude and inspiration. The funds raised will directly benefit Safe At Home’s groundbreaking Margaret’s Place initiative, allowing us to continue providing safe spaces for empowerment, education, and understanding.

Join us in shaping a world free from harm. We are safer, and braver, together.

Couldn’t join us this year? Make a contribution below.

We look forward to seeing you next year!