Teen Dating Violence:

Understanding, Preventing, and Supporting Healthy Relationships

Teen Dating Violence (TDV) is more common than many realize, affecting nearly 1 in 3 teens in the U.S. It involves any form of abusive behavior used to control or manipulate a partner in a dating relationship. This abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual, or digital, and it can occur in both in-person and online settings. The effects of TDV are long-lasting, impacting not only a teen’s immediate well-being but also their future relationships, mental health, and self-esteem. Recognizing the different forms of TDV is the first step toward preventing it, and understanding what makes a healthy relationship is essential to ending the cycle of abuse.

What is Teen Dating Violence (TDV)?

TDV encompasses any type of abusive behavior used to control or manipulate a partner in a dating relationship. This abuse can take many forms, including:

  • Physical Abuse: Hitting, slapping, pushing, or other forms of physical harm.
  • Emotional and Psychological Abuse: Controlling behavior, verbal attacks, isolation, manipulation, or threats.
  • Sexual Abuse: Any form of non-consensual sexual activity or coercion.
  • Digital Abuse: Using technology to control or intimidate a partner, including cyberbullying, monitoring social media, or tracking a partner’s location.

The impact of TDV is significant—both physically and emotionally. It can affect a teen’s mental health, academic performance, and social life. Unfortunately, many teens may not recognize that they are in an abusive relationship or may feel too afraid to speak out.

Signs of Teen Dating Violence

It’s important for both teens and adults to recognize the warning signs of TDV. These can include:

  • Changes in behavior: A teen may become withdrawn, anxious, or depressed.
  • Sudden social withdrawal: Avoiding friends, family, or activities they once enjoyed.
  • Excessive texting or calling: A partner constantly checking in or controlling communication.
  • Frequent bruises or injuries: Physical signs of abuse may be hidden but should be taken seriously.
  • Changes in appearance or mood: Changes in how a teen dresses or behaves, potentially due to fear or shame.
  • Low self-esteem or guilt: A teen may begin to blame themselves for their partner’s behavior or feel unworthy of love or respect.

The Importance of Healthy Relationships

The best way to prevent TDV is through education. Teaching teens about healthy relationships is vital for preventing abuse. Healthy relationships are based on mutual respect, trust, and communication. Here are some key characteristics of a healthy relationship:

  • Respect for boundaries: Each person has the right to their own space, thoughts, and feelings.
  • Effective communication: Open, honest conversations where both people listen to and respect each other.
  • Equality: Both partners should have an equal say in decisions and should never feel forced or controlled.
  • Support and care: Healthy partners support each other’s personal goals and well-being.

Encouraging teens to understand these qualities can help them make healthier relationship choices and avoid entering abusive situations.

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4. Reach Out for Support: Mental Health Resources

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to know that support is available. During the holidays, many people experience increased mental health struggles, and seeking help is crucial. Whether you need someone to talk to or professional support, there are numerous resources available to assist you.

Helpful Resources:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call or text 988
  • Crisis Text Line: Text “HOME” to 741741
  • Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

Our Holiday Mental Health Resource Guide also provides practical steps and support for individuals and families navigating the emotional challenges of the season.

Descarga nuestro Guía de Recursos Para Los Días Festivo en Espanol. 

How to Prevent Teen Dating Violence

Preventing TDV requires a community effort. Parents, educators, peers, and communities all play a significant role in stopping dating violence before it starts. Here are some important prevention strategies:

  • Educate teens about healthy relationships: Regularly engage in conversations about what healthy relationships look like. Make sure teens know the importance of respect, boundaries, and equality in any relationship. Encouraging open, honest conversations can build their confidence to make safe choices.
  • Foster strong communication skills: Teach teens how to express themselves effectively, ask for help when needed, and stand up for themselves. Healthy communication skills help teens resolve conflicts without resorting to control or manipulation.
  • Promote self-esteem and confidence: Help teens develop a strong sense of self-worth. A teen with healthy self-esteem is more likely to recognize when they’re being mistreated and less likely to tolerate harmful behavior in a relationship.
  • Encourage healthy social media habits: In the digital age, relationships are often monitored or manipulated online. Discuss the dangers of digital abuse, such as controlling texts, social media surveillance, or cyberbullying, and help teens understand what constitutes digital boundaries. Teens should be aware that digital abuse is a real and serious issue. Behaviors like constantly checking a partner’s phone, pressuring for passwords, or monitoring social media are signs of control, not care. Encourage open discussions about how social media should be used respectfully, and what to do if they feel their digital space is being violated.
  • Provide resources and support: Make sure teens know where to turn for help if they experience or witness TDV. Whether it’s a school counselor, helpline, or community resource, teens should always have accessible support. Offer resources like the Love is Respect Hotline (Text “LOVEIS” to 22522) and the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (1-800-799-7233).

What to Do if You or Someone You Know Is in an Abusive Relationship

If you are a teen experiencing dating violence, or you suspect someone you care about is, there are steps you can take to get support:

  1. Reach out to a trusted adult: It’s important to talk to someone you trust, such as a parent, teacher, counselor, or family member. They can help guide you to the right resources and support.
  2. Contact a helpline: The National Domestic Violence Hotline offers confidential support at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) or via text at Text “START” to 88788.
  3. Create a safety plan: If you are in immediate danger, make sure you have a plan for getting to a safe place, whether it’s a friend’s house or another trusted location.
  4. Use resources at school or in your community: Many schools and community centers offer counseling and support for teens in abusive relationships.
  5. Know your rights: Teens are entitled to protection and support. Laws exist in many states to protect victims of dating violence.

How to Talk to Teens or Friends About Teen Dating Violence

Starting a conversation about TDV may feel uncomfortable, but it’s one of the most important steps in preventing it. Teens and young adults may not always recognize unhealthy relationship dynamics, so it’s crucial to create an environment where they feel safe discussing these issues openly. Here are some strategies to approach these conversations:

  1. Choose the Right Moment: Find a time when you and the teen or friend are relaxed, such as during a car ride, while watching a show, or during a meal. Make sure it’s a moment where you’re both not distracted or stressed, so they feel comfortable talking.
  2. Use Media to Spark Dialogue: Sometimes, it’s easier to start these conversations through shared media like movies, TV shows, or social media. You can ask questions like, “What do you think about the way they handled that situation?” or “Have you seen something similar in your own friendships?” This helps ease into a discussion about TDV.
  3. Focus on Respect and Boundaries: Start by emphasizing that a healthy relationship is based on mutual respect, trust, and clearly defined boundaries. Explain that both people in a relationship should feel comfortable and valued. Share examples of what respectful communication and behavior look like.
  4. Normalize the Conversation: Let your teen or friend know that it’s normal to talk about relationships. These conversations shouldn’t be difficult, and everyone deserves to feel respected and safe in a relationship. Let them know abusive behaviors, such as controlling, belittling, or pressuring, are not acceptable.
  5. Be Open, Listen, and Validate: When they talk, listen without interrupting. Acknowledge their feelings and validate what they’re saying. Let them know it’s okay to express concern or discomfort about a relationship, and that they deserve to feel supported.
  6. Provide Resources and Support: If they or someone they know is experiencing TDV, make sure they know where to go for help. Share important resources such as the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE), Love is Respect (Text “LOVEIS” to 22522), or a trusted school counselor. Let them know they’re not alone.
  7. Discuss Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships: Help them recognize the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship. Healthy relationships are built on trust, communication, and equality, while unhealthy relationships involve control, jealousy, and disrespect. Encourage them to prioritize mutual respect and communication in their relationships.

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Let’s work together to ensure all teens understand the importance of respect in relationships. Share this blog with friends, start the conversation with your teens, and make sure everyone knows where to find help if they need it. Together, we can make a lasting impact in ending teen dating violence and fostering healthier, more respectful relationships.

About Safe At Home

Joe Torre, along with his wife Ali, founded Safe At Home in 2002 to end the cycle of violence and save lives. Known for his 60+ years in baseball as an All-Star player, broadcaster, and Hall of Fame manager, Joe carried the burden of childhood trauma from domestic violence. This personal experience inspired him to ensure no child would ever feel alone, afraid, or ashamed.

Safe At Home’s Margaret’s Place program, named in honor of Joe’s mother, offers trauma-informed intervention and prevention services within schools, helping students learn about healthy relationships, leadership, and emotional well-being. The impact of Margaret’s Place program’s impact extends beyond the classroom, uplifting families, schools, and communities. Currently operating across 29 school sites in New York, California, Ohio, and two international locations, Margaret’s Place has directly served over 200,000 young people, families, schools, and communities. 

We aim to provide valuable and accesible digital resources, including trauma-informed care, mental health support, and expert advice to empower those seeking healing and resilience.

We are safer, and braver, together. 

Little League® Teams Up with the Joe Torre Safe At Home Foundation to Spotlight Child Protection Program During 2025 National Child Abuse Prevention Month

SOUTH WILLIAMSPORT, Pa. (April 1, 2025) – As the world’s largest and most trusted youth sports organization, with more than one million dedicated volunteers spanning 80+ countries, Little League® understands the tremendous responsibility we share in safeguarding the well-being of our players. As we recognize National Child Abuse Prevention Month in April, Little League is proud to showcase the various resources available for both parents and volunteers to help provide a safe and memorable experience for Little Leaguers® in communities all over.

“Each year, our organization continues to find new ways to enhance the support and service we provide to our volunteers and families, especially when it comes to their safety and well-being,” said Joy Reynolds McCoy, Little League Senior Vice President and Chief Legal Officer. “As an industry leader, we are committed to helping raise awareness around the impact that child abuse has and more importantly educate and equip our parents and volunteers to be able to recognize, respond, and ultimately prevent abuse from happening within their own communities.”

Below are just some of the key resources provided by Little League International in an effort to support the safety and well-being of all participants:

Child Protection Program

The Little League Child Protection Program offers local leagues a comprehensive approach to educate, prevent, and respond to abuse. From defining key terms and outlining local league requirements to providing the important steps for the mandatory reporting of child abuse, the Little League Child Protection Program provides the necessary tools for local leagues to create an environment that is as safe as possible for its players.

Every local Little League program must adhere to the requirements of the Child Protection Program and utilize the additional resources provided to customize its own program to protect its participants which meets the unique needs of the league. To help educate parents, Little League also has the Parents’ Guide to the Child Protection Program, providing a snapshot of the program along with tips on how to report suspected abuse.

Joe Torre Safe At Home Foundation

In an effort to provide additional education and support, Little League has also proudly partnered with the Joe Torre Safe At Home Foundation to help end the cycle of domestic violence and to empower victims to live healthy lives. Check out this inspiring video featuring Joe Torre himself and learn what you can do to help by visiting JoeTorre.org.

 

Abuse Awareness Training

Launched in 2024 as a replacement for the programs previously available through third-party organizations like USA Baseball, the Little League Abuse Awareness Training Course provides local league volunteers a customized training course at no cost to satisfy the annual training requirement necessary in order to be a Little League volunteer. Learn more, and take the training today, by visiting LittleLeague.org/AbuseAwareness.

Mental Well-Being Resources

As part of the Little League program, all our leagues are focused on providing high-impact learning and developmental activities that shape the most formative years of a child’s life. One of the most important aspects that we must always consider is the mental health and well-being of the Little Leaguers in our leagues and communities, and what we can do to support them. To assist our leagues, LittleLeague.org/MentalWellBeing has a variety of resources, guidance, and tools to help support the mental health and well-being of parents, volunteers, and most importantly, our players.

ESPN Public Service Announcement

In addition to all the resources above, Little League also teamed up with ESPN to put together a public service announcement (PSA) that aired throughout the course of the summer in 2024, showcasing the importance of the Little League Child Protection Program throughout the tournament season with more than 340 games broadcast across the ESPN Platforms.

WATCH NOW

To learn more about the Little League Child Protection Program, including additional resources such as State-by-State Laws regarding Background ChecksChild AbuseConcussions, and Sudden Cardiac Arrest, visit LittleLeague.org/ChildProtection.

About Little League®

Founded in 1939, Little League® is the world’s largest organized youth sports program, with approximately two million players (ages 4-16) playing baseball and softball in communities across every U.S. state and more than 80 other countries. Operated by more than one million volunteers, Little League believes in the power of youth baseball and softball to teach life lessons that build stronger individuals and communities. From professional athletes and award-winning celebrities, to public officials and other influential members of society, Little League graduates have taken the lessons they learned, both on and off the field, to create the next chapter of the Little League story. Each year, millions of people follow the hard work, dedication, and sportsmanship that Little Leaguers® display at our seven baseball and softball World Series events, the premier tournaments in youth sports. For more information, visit LittleLeague.org, and follow Little League (@LittleLeague) on FacebookX/TwitterInstagramTikTok, and YouTube. When we all come together, we are truly One Team. One Little League.

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For more information contact:

Kevin Fountain, Little League® Senior Director of Communications

E-mail: KFountain@LittleLeague.org ; Website: LittleLeague.org/Media

Office: 570-326-1921, ext. 2325; Cell: 570-295-7728

 

Los Angeles Wildfire Resources

In the aftermath of the Los Angeles fires, many communities are grappling with the trauma of displacement, loss, and overwhelming uncertainty. The devastation goes beyond the loss of homes, impacting the very core of individuals’ lives—shaking their sense of safety and identity. This trauma is often compounded by the loss of community, routines, and rituals that provide grounding, especially for children, who are among the most vulnerable.

In times like these, the strength of community and collective resilience becomes our greatest asset. They reinforce the urgency of our mission: to create a world where every home is safe. We stand in solidarity with all who have experienced the loss of a safe place, reaffirming our commitment to a future free from harm.

To support you during this challenging time, we’ve created a Hope & Healing Workbook in both English and Spanish. This resource offers practical guidance for youth, parents, caregivers, and educators as they navigate the aftermath of the fires. The workbook includes worksheets, activities, and exercises focused on safety planning, emotional support, and tips for discussing resilience and coping strategies with children.

Additionally, we are providing the Los Angeles Wildfires Resources Kit, also available in English and Spanish. It includes essential resources on safety planning, psychological support, and advice on how to talk to children and adolescents about the fires.

Download our Los Angeles Wildfires Resources Kit in English

Descargue nuestro Kit de Recursos para los Incendios Forestales de Los Ángeles en Español

You can find a comprehensive list of resources below, which includes evacuation information, stress management strategies, and guidance on being an ally to those affected.

Finally, we extend our heartfelt thanks to the brave LAFD firefighters and all the dedicated crews who have traveled from near and far, selflessly risking their lives to protect our communities.

Please stay safe, and email contact@joetorre.org for further assistance.

We are safer, and braver, together.

Updated: 02/06/2025

Coping Resources:

Mental Health Resources:

Suicide & Crisis Lifelines:

Specialized Resources:

Alert & Preparedness Resources:

Evacuation Centers & Shelters:

  • Westwood Recreation Center • 1350 S Sepulveda Blvd, 90025
    Open for evacuees and accepts small animals. Now also serves as a shelter for residents to remain overnight.
  • LA Dream Center • 2301 Bellevue Ave, 90026
    Providing shelter, clothing, meals, and support for families and animals. Call 213-273-7000.
  • Trinity Lutheran Church • 997 E. Walnut St., Pasadena 91106
    Offering hot meals, beds, restrooms, and case management services. Call 888-915-8111 to check shelter activation.
  • Pasadena Convention Center • 300 E. Green St., Pasadena 91101
  • El Camino Real Charter High School • 5440 Valley Circle Blvd, Woodland Hills, CA 91367
  • Northridge Park • 10120 Reseda Blvd, Northridge, CA 91324
  • Ritchie Valens Recreation Center • 10736 Laurel Canyon Blvd, Pacoima, CA 91331
  • Sepulveda Recreation Center • 8825 Kester Ave, Panorama City, CA 91402
  • Airbnb – Partnering with 211 LA to offer free, temporary housing for those displaced or evacuated. They are specifically focused on residents in the Altadena, Malibu, Pacific Palisades, Pasadena, Santa Monica, and Sylmar areas. For more information, visit: 211LA.org/LA-Wildfires

Animal Evacuation Shelters:

How to Volunteer:

How to Donate:

About Safe At Home

Joe Torre, along with his wife Ali, founded Safe At Home in 2002 to end the cycle of violence and save lives. Known for his 60+ years in baseball as an All-Star player, broadcaster, and Hall of Fame manager, Joe carried the burden of childhood trauma from domestic violence. This personal experience inspired him to ensure no child would ever feel alone, afraid, or ashamed.

Safe At Home’s Margaret’s Place program, named in honor of Joe’s mother, offers trauma-informed intervention and prevention services within schools, helping students learn about healthy relationships, leadership, and emotional well-being. The impact of Margaret’s Place program’s impact extends beyond the classroom, uplifting families, schools, and communities. Currently operating across 29 school sites in New York, California, Ohio, and two international locations, Margaret’s Place has directly served over 200,000 young people, families, schools, and communities. 

We aim to provide valuable and accesible digital resources, including trauma-informed care, mental health support, and expert advice to empower those seeking healing and resilience.

We are safer, and braver, together. 

5 Essential Coping Strategies

for a Calmer Holiday Season

The holiday season can bring joy, but it can also create stress, sadness, and emotional challenges. With kids home from school and the hustle of holiday activities, stress levels can rise quickly for parents/caregivers and children alike. Prioritizing your mental health is essential, and carving out moments for self-care can make a big difference. Here are five strategies to help you stay grounded and centered throughout the holidays.

1. Start with Gratitude: A Powerful Tool for Coping

Gratitude can help reduce stress and increase happiness, particularly during challenging times. Studies show that practicing gratitude can improve emotional well-being and shift our focus toward positive emotions, even when things feel overwhelming. Try keeping a gratitude journal, where you jot down three things you’re grateful for each day. This simple practice can bring peace even during stressful moments.

Download our 5 Minute Gratitude Journal to keep you grounded this holiday season.

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2. Prioritize Self-Care to Recharge and Relax

Self-care is essential during the holidays. A survey by the American Psychological Association found that nearly 38% of people report higher stress levels during the season. Taking time for activities that rejuvenate you—whether it’s a quiet walk, reading a book, or engaging in relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation—can help you stay balanced. Be sure to set boundaries to protect your time and energy. Consider downloading our Winter Wellness & Self-Care Plan that includes physical and mental health practices to help you stay grounded.

Quick Self-Care Tips:

  • Take Breaks: Find moments to rest and recharge throughout your day.
  • Stay Active: Regular physical activity boosts mood and reduces stress.
  • Set Boundaries: Saying “no” when you need time for yourself is vital for mental well-being.

Find more self-care resources in our Self-Care Playlist on YouTube

3. Manage Stress with Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a powerful tool for reducing stress and staying present during the holiday season. Simple practices like deep breathing, meditation, or a mindful walk can help calm your mind and bring you back to the moment. Taking just a few minutes each day to check in with your thoughts and emotions can help you manage overwhelm and prevent burnout.

Try our Mindful Scavenger Hunt to decompress. 

A colorful sheet with different journal prompts to create a 5 minute gratitude refelction
A colorful sheet with different journal prompts to create a 5 minute gratitude refelction

4. Reach Out for Support: Mental Health Resources

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to know that support is available. During the holidays, many people experience increased mental health struggles, and seeking help is crucial. Whether you need someone to talk to or professional support, there are numerous resources available to assist you.

Helpful Resources:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call or text 988
  • Crisis Text Line: Text “HOME” to 741741
  • Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

Our Holiday Mental Health Resource Guide also provides practical steps and support for individuals and families navigating the emotional challenges of the season.

Descarga nuestro Guía de Recursos Para Los Días Festivo en Espanol. 

4. Reach Out for Support: Mental Health Resources

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to know that support is available. During the holidays, many people experience increased mental health struggles, and seeking help is crucial. Whether you need someone to talk to or professional support, there are numerous resources available to assist you.

Helpful Resources:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call or text 988
  • Crisis Text Line: Text “HOME” to 741741
  • Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

Our Holiday Mental Health Resource Guide also provides practical steps and support for individuals and families navigating the emotional challenges of the season.

5. Coping with Grief: Acknowledging and Honoring Loss

For many, the holiday season can be especially difficult due to grief and loss. Whether it’s the passing of a loved one or another form of loss, it’s important to acknowledge and process these feelings in a healthy way. Activities like journaling, creating a memory jar, or simply taking time to reflect on your emotions can help provide comfort during this time. Remember, grief doesn’t have a set timeline, and it’s okay to feel however you feel during the holidays.

View our video Speaking to Your Child About Grief for support navigating conversations during these difficult times.

Mira nuestro video “Hablando con tu hijo sobre el duelo” para obtener apoyo al navegar conversaciones durante estos tiempos difíciles.

This holiday season, prioritize your mental health by practicing these coping strategies. Remember, it’s okay to take a step back when needed, seek support, and focus on what truly matters. The holidays don’t have to be perfect—they can be meaningful when we take care of ourselves and each other.

Additional Tools / Resources

About Safe At Home

Joe Torre, along with his wife Ali, founded Safe At Home in 2002 to end the cycle of violence and save lives. Known for his 60+ years in baseball as an All-Star player, broadcaster, and Hall of Fame manager, Joe carried the burden of childhood trauma from domestic violence. This personal experience inspired him to ensure no child would ever feel alone, afraid, or ashamed.

Safe At Home’s Margaret’s Place program, named in honor of Joe’s mother, offers trauma-informed intervention and prevention services within schools, helping students learn about healthy relationships, leadership, and emotional well-being. The impact of Margaret’s Place program’s impact extends beyond the classroom, uplifting families, schools, and communities. Currently operating across 29 school sites in New York, California, Ohio, and two international locations, Margaret’s Place has directly served over 200,000 young people, families, schools, and communities. 

We aim to provide valuable and accesible digital resources, including trauma-informed care, mental health support, and expert advice to empower those seeking healing and resilience.

We are safer, and braver, together. 

Cultivating Gratitude and Connection

Across Generations this Holiday Season

The holiday season invites us to reflect on gratitude, build stronger connections, and give back to our communities. It’s a special time to gather with loved ones, share stories, and engage in traditions that celebrate unity and compassion. Research shows that intergenerational connections—between grandparents, parents, children, and extended family—not only deepen bonds but also boost mental well-being and resilience for everyone involved.

The Value of Intergenerational Connections

Building connections across generations allows family members to learn from each other’s experiences. Intergenerational relationships foster empathy, reduce isolation, and give youth valuable insights into family history and cultural heritage (Kaplan, 2018). In a world where isolation and stress are prevalent, these meaningful bonds offer a sense of belonging and continuity.

Strengthening Connections Across Generations

Here are 4 ways to nurture intergenerational connections during the holiday season:

1. Engage in Shared Activities

  • Storytelling Sessions: Invite older family members to share memorable stories or life lessons. Encourage younger members to ask questions and share their own experiences.
  • Conversation Prompts: Use conversation cards or prompts to encourage open dialogue. Try questions like:
    • “What’s one lesson you learned growing up?”
    • “What was the world like when you were my age?”
    • “What’s something you’ve learned from a younger family member?”
A list of 9 conversation starters to Strengthen Intergenerational Bonds This Holiday Season
  • Shared Hobbies or Skills: Engage in activities where one generation teaches the other—whether cooking, technology, or crafts. These shared experiences create lasting memories and deepen mutual understanding.

2. Foster Respectful Dialogue

  • Practice Active Listening: Show respect by listening attentively and avoiding interruptions.
  • Share Family Stories: Focus on stories that highlight family strength and resilience. These create shared history and reinforce connections.
  • Keep an Open Mind: Encourage curiosity by asking questions and showing interest in each other’s experiences, bridging generational gaps. Try our A Walk In My Shoes: Family Art Activity to get to know your loved ones more deeply.
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3. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude enhances well-being, increasing happiness, reducing depression, and strengthening relationships (Emmons & McCullough, 2003). To foster gratitude this holiday season, consider these activities:

  • Gratitude Jar: Create a family gratitude jar, where everyone can jot down things they’re thankful for throughout the month. At the end of the season, take time to read each note aloud and reflect together as a family. You can also download our Gratitude Jar worksheet. 
  • Thank You Notes: Encourage family members to write thank you notes to people who’ve made a positive impact in their lives. This simple act strengthens connections.
  • Gratitude Circle: During family gatherings, ask everyone to share one thing they’re grateful for. This practice sparks meaningful conversation and reinforces a sense of togetherness.

4. Give Back and Volunteer

Volunteering together during the holiday season encourages compassion and gives younger generations a hands-on understanding of generosity and empathy. According to Psychology Today, volunteering can increase life satisfaction and reduce stress, especially when done as part of a group (Schwartz, 2018).

Consider these ideas for giving back as a family:

  • Community Service Projects: Volunteer at local food banks, shelters, or other community centers. Consider using the Deed App to find volunteer opportunities.
  • Assemble Care Packages: Create care packages with essentials like food, hygiene products, and notes of encouragement. Assembling packages together can spark conversations about gratitude and giving, making a positive impact on those in need. Use our care package checklist for support.
  • Support Local Organizations: Find a cause that resonates with your family, such as youth empowerment or elder care, and support it through donations or volunteer work. This shared experience can create a sense of purpose and community involvement.

Finding Meaning in Connection and Gratitude

This holiday season, take time to connect across generations, express gratitude, and give back. These small acts can create lasting memories and help lay a foundation of compassion and respect within your family. By fostering these connections and engaging in these practices, we create an environment of unity and gratitude that supports mental well-being for all family members.

May your holidays be filled with gratitude, meaningful connections, and the joy of giving back.

Supporting Boys, Young Men, and Male-Identifying Individuals:

The Importance of Community and Connection for Mental Health

November brings Movember, a global movement spotlighting men’s mental health and well-being. It’s the perfect time to address the unique challenges faced by boys, young men, and male-identifying individuals. Societal pressures often discourage vulnerability and help-seeking, leaving many feeling isolated. However, building community and fostering connection can significantly bolster resilience and improve mental health outcomes.

Why Community Matters

Peer groups play a critical role in shaping identity and self-esteem for boys, young men, and male-identifying individuals. Without supportive environments, they may turn to unhealthy outlets to find belonging. Research shows that isolation increases the likelihood of risky behaviors as youth seek connection in unsafe ways (Dukes & Martinez, 2017). Programs like Safe At Home’s Margaret’s Place provide essential spaces for young people to connect, discuss emotions, and develop healthy relationship skills.

Practical Ideas to Foster Connection

Encouraging positive peer interaction can reduce feelings of isolation and boost self-esteem. Here are some ideas:

  • Group Activities: Team sports, after-school clubs, or group therapy encourage collaboration and expression in supportive settings. At Margaret’s Place, group programs tailored to young men use creative outlets like art and music to foster connection and self-expression.
  • Long-standing Community Traditions: Activities like neighborhood pick-up sports, free library programs, and mentoring initiatives naturally cultivate connection. The CDC highlights the positive impact of structured mentorship programs in reducing risky behaviors (CDC, 2021).
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Access tools to promote connection in your community through our Resource Hub.

Tips for Caregivers and Educators

Supporting youth mental health doesn’t always require professional intervention. Small actions can make a big impact:

1. Encourage Open Conversations

Ask open-ended questions like, “How did that make you feel?” or “What might make this situation easier?”

Download our Conversation Cards for Changemakers to spark meaningful discussions at home or in group settings.

Or view our video on Effective Communication: A Guide For Parents

A spread of cards with the heading "Conversation Cards for Changemakers" meant to prompt healthy dialogue between adults and children.

2. Model Healthy Coping Skills

Demonstrate techniques like journaling or deep breathing, encouraging youth to explore what works for them.

For extra support, download our Coping Skills Worksheet—a helpful tool to guide youth in identifying and practicing healthy ways to manage stress and emotions.

A worksheet explaining what healthy and unhealthy coping skills are
A worksheet for practicing healthy and unhealthy coping skills

3. Normalize Seeking Help

Emphasize that asking for support is a strength. Share emergency resources to ensure youth know where to turn.

Mental Health Resources for Male-Identifying Youth:

Finding support is a vital step in fostering mental health and resilience. Here are resources tailored to men, boys, and male-identifying individuals to promote self-care, connection, and well-being:

General Mental Health Resources:

  • Movember Men’s Health Resources: Offers valuable resources specifically tailored to men’s mental health, including self-care tips, peer support programs, and educational materials.
  • A Call to Men: Focuses on promoting healthy, respectful manhood by challenging traditional gender norms and offering tools to help boys and young men build stronger emotional connections and advocate for gender equity.
  • Boys Town: Provides resources on social skills and coping strategies tailored for young boys and teenagers.

Emergency Support Services:

Encourage youth in need to take the first step toward seeking help. Support is always available to create safer, braver spaces for all.

Join Us This Movember

This Movember, let’s challenge stigma and foster a culture of openness and resilience for male-identifying youth. Whether by joining initiatives, downloading resources, or simply starting a conversation, we can make a difference. Together, we can create safer, braver spaces where all youth can thrive.

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Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2024:

Empowering Safer, Braver Spaces Through Education and Support

October marks Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a crucial time to raise awareness, educate the public, and promote essential resources to prevent domestic violence. Each year, domestic violence affects millions, leaving lasting physical, emotional, and psychological scars. At the same time, Safe At Home is committed to fostering safer, braver spaces for those impacted by domestic violence. Through our trauma-informed Margaret’s Place programs, we provide direct support to students in schools by offering counseling, education, and peer leadership programs that help young people build healthy relationships.

Even if your school doesn’t have a Margaret’s Place program, this month, we are sharing valuable resources to empower communities and equip them with the tools needed to make a difference both inside and outside the classroom.

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence, commonly referred to as intimate partner violence, is a pattern of abusive behaviors used to exert control over another person. In fact, it can take many forms, including:

  • Physical abuse: Hitting, choking, or causing physical harm.
  • Emotional and verbal abuse: Manipulation, threats, or insults designed to break down someone’s self-esteem.
  • Psychological control: Gaslighting, isolation, or coercion.
  • Financial control: Restricting access to money or resources.
  • Sexual coercion: Forcing unwanted sexual acts.
Infographic with the definition of domestic violence, including types of domestic violence, and resources for anyone experiencing domestic violence.
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🎧 Want to learn more about the different types of abuse? Listen to Episode 3 of our podcast, Safe Keeping, where we dive deeper into this important topic. 

Understanding the Impact Across Demographics

Although domestic violence can impact anyone, certain populations are more vulnerable. Recognizing how domestic violence affects different communities is crucial to ensuring equitable support and culturally sensitive resources.

These statistics demonstrate the diverse ways in which domestic violence affects different communities and highlight the need for culturally competent, inclusive resources to address this widespread issue.

Domestic Violence & Hispanic Communities:

Hispanic teens are 60% more likely to attempt suicide than their non-Hispanic white peers, particularly when exposed to domestic violence

(U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Office of Minority Health)

Domestic Violence & Black Women:

1 in 4 Black women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.

Black women are 2.5 times more likely to be killed by men than white women (Institute for Women’s Policy Research).

Systemic barriers, including racism and socioeconomic challenges, make it more difficult for Black survivors to access support.

Domestic Violence & Native American and Alaskan Native Women:

More than 4 in 5 Native American women have experienced violence, and 55% have experienced intimate partner violence (National Congress of American Indians).

Complex legal and systemic challenges often hinder Native American communities’ ability to access support and justice.

Domestic Violence & LGBTQ+ Communities:

44% of lesbian women and 61% of bisexual women experience domestic violence.

37% of bisexual men report experiencing abuse, often from male partners (NCADV).

1 in 3 transgender individuals are at risk of domestic abuse during their lifetime (Human Rights Campaign, 2022).

Domestic Violence & Women with Disabilities:

Women with disabilities experience domestic violence at rates 40% higher than women without disabilities (End Abuse of People with Disabilities).

Unique risks include caregiver abuse and additional barriers to accessing support services.

Domestic Violence & Children:

1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 2022).

Witnessing domestic violence can double a child’s risk of developing anxiety or PTSD.

Recognizing the Signs of Abuse

Abuse can often be difficult to recognize, especially in relationships where power and control are involved. Here are some common signs that may indicate an abusive relationship:

  • Extreme Jealousy: Constantly accusing you of being unfaithful or questioning who you spend time with
  • Possessiveness: Acting as if they “own” you, controlling what you wear, where you go and who you see.
  • Isolation: Cutting you off from friends, family, or social activities. They may guilt you into staying home or discourage you from seeing others.
  • Constant Criticism: Regularly belittling you, calling you names, or making you feel worthless. They may make you doubt your self-worth or abilities.
  • Blaming You for Their Behavior: Saying things like, “If you didn’t do that, I wouldn’t have gotten triggered,” or blaming you for their problems or bad mood.
  • Unpredictable Mood Swings: Switching from being loving and caring to angry and violent without warning. You might feel like you’re “walking on eggshells”. 

Are you or someone you know affected by domestic violence?

If you notice any of these warning signs, it’s important to reach out for immediate help and support. Abusive behavior will often escalate over time, and early intervention is key to preventing further harm.

Remember, there is help and abuse is never your fault.

What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like

A healthy relationship is one built on mutual respect, trust, and open communication. At Margaret’s Place, we teach students how to recognize the qualities of a healthy relationship to help them avoid or leave abusive situations, but these signs are important to spot at any age. Here are some characteristics of a healthy relationship:

  • Mutual respect for each other’s feelings and boundaries
  • Open, honest communication without fear of judgment
  • Equal decision-making and shared responsibilities
  • Support for each other’s growth and well-being

Everyone deserves to feel safe and respected in their relationships.

Challenge yourself this Domestic Violence Awareness Month with our Healthy Relationship Challenge, or download our healthy relationship guide for more activities. 

Suggestions for how to create a healthy releationships

How to Talk About and Support Victims of Domestic Violence

Starting conversations about domestic violence can feel overwhelming, but it’s essential to foster understanding and create safer spaces for all. Whether you’re communicating with children, teens, friends, or seeking help yourself, here’s how to approach these important discussions during Domestic Violence Awareness Month and beyond.

 

Communicating with Younger Children (Elementary Age)

When talking with younger children, it’s important to focus on concepts like kindness, empathy, and safety. For example, discuss the importance of respect for others’ personal boundaries in an age-appropriate way, helping children understand that everyone deserves to feel safe and valued.

Example: “Respecting someone’s “no” is a part of showing kindness and care. We should always be kind and never hurt others.”

A helpful tool is the book A Terrible Thing Happened, which helps children process trauma in an age-appropriate way.

Similarly, our Conversation Cards for Children provide prompts to start meaningful discussions about feelings and safety. Save, print, and cut into cards for use at home or in the classroom.

Conversation cards to help have discussions with your child about domestic violence.

Communicating with Teens and High School Students

Teens require more direct conversations about healthy relationships, consent, and boundaries. To illustrate, use real-life scenarios or media they are familiar with to explain the importance of mutual respect and safety in relationships.

Example: “In a healthy relationship, both people should feel respected and safe. If you feel scared or controlled, it’s important to reach out for help.”

In addition, our video, “Understanding Domestic Violence: A Guide for Parents”, offers guidance on how to approach these conversations with your teenager, empowering them to recognize unhealthy behaviors and seek help if necessary.

How to Get Involved During Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Whether you are a student, educator, or supporter, everyone can play a role in creating safer, braver spaces this Domestic Violence Awareness Month. View upcoming events and ways to get involved below:

NYC Domestic Violence Awareness Month Events:

A full list of Domestic Violence Awareness Month events happening throughout New York City.

View the New York Calendar.

California Partnership to End Domestic Violence Events:

Find Domestic Violemce Awarenss Month events across California that promote awareness and action.

View the California Calendar.

Running Your Own Domestic Violence Awareness Month Campaign

Throughout the month, our Margaret’s Place counselors and Peer Leaders will be leading school-wide campaigns, promoting respect, healthy relationships, and raising awareness about domestic violence. Even if your school or community doesn’t have a Margaret’s Place program, you can still make an impact by running your own Domestic Violence Awareness Month campaign. Here’s how to get started:

  1. Set a Goal: Define the focus of your campaign, whether it’s promoting healthy relationships, mental health, or domestic violence awareness.
  2. Engage Your Community: Plan events, distribute flyers, and use social media to raise awareness. Encourage participation through events, workshops, or activities.
  3. Create Materials: Get creative with social media graphics, posters, and videos to make your message impactful.
  4. Collaborate with Peers: Work with your student body or local organizations to amplify your campaign’s reach.

For more detailed steps and ideas, check out our Campaign Tip Sheet.

Remember, you don’t need to be part of Margaret’s Place to make a difference!

Campaign Tips for running your own Domestic Violence Awareness Month campaign at your school or in your community

Resources

If you or someone you know needs help, there are many trusted resources available that offer support for individuals affected by domestic violence. These organizations provide culturally relevant and trauma-informed care:

www.thehotline.org

Call (800) 799-7233 or text “START” to 88788 for confidential support 24/7.

www.nami.org

Mental health resources tailored to the Hispanic/Latino community.

988lifeline.org

Bilingual crisis support for individuals in need.

www.jedfoundation.org

Mental health resources for teens and young adults, with specific resources for Hispanic and Latino communities.

www.loveisrespect.org

Support and resources for teens and young adults navigating relationships.

www.acalltomen.org

Empowering men and boys to promote healthy, respectful relationships and end violence against women.

nomoredirectory.org

A global directory of domestic and sexual violence helplines and services

joetorre.org/resources

Explore a wide array of support materials for youth, teachers, and parents.

Domestic violence is an issue that affects people of all ages, races, and backgrounds. This Domestic Violence Awareness Month, lets educate ourselves, further support those in need, and raise awareness, so that together, we can create a future where everyone feels safer and braver.

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Back to School: A Fresh Start for Everyone

The start of a new school year is a time full of anticipation, opportunities, and challenges for students, parents, and teachers alike. This period is more than just a return to the classroom; it’s an opportunity to reset, create new routines, and foster a supportive community where everyone can flourish. 

Whether you’re a student facing new challenges or an adult guiding young people through them, this season offers the chance to embrace growth and healing.

Managing Stress & Anxiety During the School Year

Returning to school can feel overwhelming with the pressures of tests, time management, and social dynamics. However, simple coping strategies can help manage stress effectively:

Mindfulness Exercises

Engage in daily mindfulness practices like deep breathing or focusing on the present moment. These techniques can calm the mind and reduce anxiety:

Try using Insight Timer for free guided meditations. Explore their English and Spanish versions here: Insight Timer | Insight Timer Español.

Incorporate Walking Meditation into your routine. This practice helps ground you in the present and can reduce stress. Save our Walking Meditation exercise, or watch our video where we talk you through it.

Square Breathing is a simple yet effective technique to help manage anxiety and improve focus. Learn how to practice Square Breathing with our guide below.

Routine Building

Establish a routine that includes time for relaxation and self-care. Setting aside time each evening to unwind can make a difference.

We love this recommendation from the Calm App on creating a balanced daily routine: Daily Routine Tips.

Another fun way to dedicate time to self-care is through our Self-Care Bingo card. Download it and find inspiration for taking care of yourself.

Seeking Support

Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Whether it’s a counselor, a teacher, or a peer, support is available.

At Margaret’s Place, we offer trauma-informed counseling and peer support to help students navigate these challenges.

If your school doesn’t have a Margaret’s Place program, look for other school resources or local community organizations dedicated to mental health and well-being.

Follow us on social media for tips and resources throughout the school year:

Instagram: @SafeAtHomeFoundation | @Margarets_Place

Twitter: @SafeAtHomeFound

Facebook: Safe At Home Foundation

TikTok: @Margarets_Place

Building Community and Finding Support

Back to school is also about finding your place in the community—whether you’re new to the school or returning after a break.

For Students:

Be a Good Friend: Simple acts of kindness can go a long way in creating a supportive environment. Discover more about the power of friendship with this article from the Jed Foundation: The Power of Friendship.

Be an Upstander: Learn how to be an upstander and make a positive impact in your school community: How to Be an Upstander.

If You’re the New Kid: Remember that everyone has been new at some point. Take small steps to reach out, whether it’s joining a club or simply starting a conversation with a classmate. Here are some conversation starters to help you break the ice:

Starting a conversation with these topics can help you connect with others and find common ground. Good luck!

Utilize Resources: Schools often have numerous resources available to help students feel connected. Check with your teacher, advisor, or the front office to find out what’s available.

For Parents & Teachers:

Your role is vital in helping students navigate the ups and downs of the school year. Encourage open communication and be a source of stability as they adjust to new routines.

Read these tips for healthy parent-child communication: Healthy Parent-Child Communication.

Managing Your Own Stress: Adults often feel the pressure of the back-to-school season just as much as students. Prioritize self-care and manage your time effectively to avoid burnout. Refer to our Managing Stress & Anxiety recommendations above for support.

Practical Tips for Everyone

Set Realistic Goals: Whether you’re a student or an adult, setting achievable goals can help you stay focused and motivated throughout the year. Use this worksheet from TherapistAid to break down your goals: Goal Breakdown Worksheet.

You can also save our SMART Goals Tracker below to guide you through setting Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound goals, making it easier to monitor your success and celebrate your milestones.

Stay Organized: Keep track of assignments, deadlines, and other responsibilities with planners, apps, or to-do lists. Explore free downloads to find a planner that suits your needs: Free Planner Downloads.

Take Breaks: Remember that taking breaks is essential for maintaining mental health. Ensure your routine includes time for relaxation and downtime.

Margaret’s Place: Creating Safe Spaces for Students

At Safe At Home, we are dedicated to creating safe spaces where students can heal and grow. Our groundbreaking Margaret’s Place program offers trauma-informed counseling, peer leadership opportunities, and community-building initiatives, all designed to empower students and support their well-being. Since our inception, Margaret’s Place has made a profound impact, with over 181,000 youth, families, and communities served across the country. We are proud to have 20 Margaret’s Place sites in school communities across California, New York, Connecticut, and Tahiti. Through a partnership with the Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health, we will open 9 additional schools this year.

Read our 2022-2023 Impact Report and stay tuned for the 2023-2024 report available this fall. Subscribe to our newsletter to be notified when it’s released.

As we continue to expand our program sites, we aim to extend the healing impact of Margaret’s Place beyond the four walls of the room. Through our blog, newsletters, social media, and website, we offer resources, tips, and tools to support students, families, and educators nationwide. Even if your school doesn’t have a Margaret’s Place, you can still access valuable resources to help you navigate challenges and foster a supportive community.

The start of a new school year is a chance to begin again, embrace change, and build something new. Whether you’re navigating the challenges of being the new kid, offering support as a parent or teacher, or finding your place in the community, this is your opportunity to make a difference.

At Safe At Home, we’re here to support you find peace, safety, and community as you embark on this new journey.

Let’s make this school year a time of healing, growth, and connection.

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Joe Torre Night: A Home Run for Safe At Home and the Somerset Patriots

On July 23, 2024, the Somerset Patriots hosted a memorable “Joe Torre Night.” This event, part of Safe At Home’s ongoing partnership with Minor League Baseball (MiLB), underscored our vital work in educating and empowering children, families, and communities to be changemakers who build a safer, braver world.

The evening kicked off with our co-founder, Joe Torre, sharing his deeply personal journey during an on-field Q&A session. Speaking openly about his experiences growing up in a home affected by domestic violence, Joe explained how these experiences inspired him and his wife, Ali, to establish the Safe At Home Foundation over two decades ago. Through our Margaret’s Place programs, we create safe spaces inside schools for empowerment, education, and understanding.

Fans were greeted with a special edition Joe Torre x Safe At Home Topps baseball card, a unique keepsake that also serves as a tool for spreading awareness about domestic violence and abuse. Adding to the evening’s excitement, many fans participated in a raffle to win a baseball signed by Joe himself, and Joe set the tone for the game with a ceremonial first pitch.

This event is part of a larger initiative where over 45 MiLB teams are participating from June 9 until September 2, 2024. Each participating team will raffle or auction off a Joe Torre autographed baseball, with proceeds benefiting either Safe At Home, or a local domestic violence organization. Teams will also distribute educational materials, share Safe At Home’s 30 second PSA, and engage with local domestic violence organizations to further extend our reach and impact.

Our partnership with MiLB allows us take the healing powers of Margaret’s place beyond the classroom and into the ballpark, empowering fans across the country to join us in our mission. As Joe himself said, “Millions are exposed to violence, trauma, and abuse every year. It is vital that we raise awareness and that they have access to support. We are proud to partner with Minor League Baseball and Topps to educate and inspire MiLB fans to make a difference and join us in cultivating a new generation of healthy, respectful relationships, where everybody feels safe at home.”

The success of “Joe Torre Night” with the Somerset Patriots is a testament to the power of community and sports in driving positive change. We extend our heartfelt gratitude to the Somerset Patriots community, and especially to the Kalafer family, for their unwavering support of our mission. It was a night filled with baseball, hope, and a shared commitment to making the world a safer place for children and families.

For more opportunities to support Safe At Home through our partnership with MiLB, including finding upcoming games in your area, visit joetorre.org/milb.

 

Read more about the event from MiLB    |    Read our Press Release

 

Joe Torre Safe At Home Welcomes Two New Board Members

NEW YORK, August 9, 2024Joe Torre Safe At Home today announced that Chris Flood, Verizon’s Atlantic North Market President, and Jeff Proctor, President and Founder of television production company ProAngle Media, have joined its Board of Directors.

In his current role as Verizon’s Atlantic North Market President, Flood is responsible for overseeing all consumer sales, distribution, and operational execution across the market’s 12 states and the District of Columbia, leading a team of more than 2,900 employees. Flood is a distinguished leader with a remarkable 22- year career at Verizon, during which he has consistently demonstrated exceptional leadership skills and a proven track record of success. In the Atlantic North Market, he has cultivated a culture of integrity, performance excellence, transparency, and a strong commitment to giving back to the communities Verizon serves. In his previous role, Flood served as the Consumer Vice President of Verizon Consumer Group’s Northeast Region, where he led corporate retail and indirect sales.

“It is a privilege to join Safe At Home, and it’s a responsibility that I embrace with great pride and excitement,” said Flood. “I am honored to be a part of this incredible organization and contribute to its mission of providing essential resources, security and hope to children impacted by domestic violence.”

With more than 30 years of experience in television production, Proctor produced hundreds of professional and collegiate sporting events and served as executive producer for thousands of others. He is the President and Founder of ProAngle Media, a production company responsible for local and national telecasts for clients such as CBS, ESPN, FOX, the Los Angeles Chargers, among others. Recently, Proctor expanded beyond his primary focus on sports to develop, sell and produce game show “Person, Place or Thing,” which currently airs on nearly 200 television stations nationally. Prior to establishing ProAngle, Proctor was the Vice President of Sports for KCBS and KCAL where he oversaw the duopoly’s sports content.

“I am excited and honored to be a part of Safe At Home,” said Proctor. “Not only am I a long-time admirer of Joe and Ali Torre, but to be a part of such an incredible organization that helps kids in need is very satisfying and rewarding. I look forward to helping Safe At Home accomplish its mission of helping at risk kids cope with their trauma and find hope and healing for their futures.”

More than 20 years ago, Ali and Joe Torre founded Safe At Home to end the cycle of violence and abuse through education. Today, with education as its foundation, in schools and beyond, it strengthens every person’s courage, knowledge, and resilience through healthy relationship building, coping and self- care tools, and accessible resources. It teaches children, families, and communities to be changemakers who build a world free from harm. Through its Margaret’s Place model, named in honor of Joe’s mother, Safe at Home creates a safe space in schools, offering both trauma informed intervention and prevention services for empowerment, education, and understanding. Safe at Home currently has 20 Margaret’s Place sites that operate in New York and Westchester, NY; Los Angeles, CA; Cincinnati, OH; and Tahiti, French Polynesia. This school year, Margaret’s Place programs have reached 21,394 students, and since its inception, Safe At Home has served more than 181,000 youth, their families and communities.

For more information, visit www.joetorre.org.

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